SpiritBeautifulRevolution

Fear isn’t always a bad thing. Fear can keep you from going down a dark alley, or from getting on an elevator with someone who “just doesn’t feel right”.  Fear is a primal instinct that can save our lives, and for that reason, must be respected.

Fear doesn’t serve us, however, when it becomes irrational and keeps us from striving for a goal that we want to achieve, paralyzing us into inaction. The inner voice we hear that tells us “You’ll fail and look like a fool” is sometimes so overwhelming that we don’t even try to affect change in our lives, but keep going through the motions, leaving our dreams to collect dust in the recesses of our minds.

But is that really fear?  Or is it the insecure ego shouting for attention, willfully keeping your goals low so that you don’t risk embarrassment by not-quite-attaining a lofty dream?  And is this fear really about failure, or is it about success so incredible that your life would completely turn upside down if your dreams were realized?  “Fear” that keeps us from pursuing goals isn’t really fear at all, then. Instead, it is a ploy from weak ego that prefers the relative safety of the status quo instead of the possibility of real success.

So, what do you do?  There are tons of things, here are a few:

1)     realize that your fears are put in place by your insecure ego to “protect” you

2)     thank your ego for its good intention, but the cancel the negative thought, and imagine the best possible outcome. Then tell it “Thanks for your concern, but I have the audacity to dream big, so you can just sit there and keep quiet”

3)     keep canceling the negative thoughts, please. You know you have them. Every time you imagine the changes that will come into your life when you finally achieve your dream(s), panic and terror will raise their ugly heads to keep you in line.  Be a rebel, and do what is really in your heart, no matter how small your beginning steps are.

4)     practice techniques which help neutralize the conscious or subconscious fears you may have. 

5)     when you have neutralized your fears, practice affirmations, such as “Everything that happens is for my highest good, and I surrender completely and joyfully to the will of God (or in whomever you believe)

Fear is like that nasty little kid in your neighbourhood that lurks behind the tree at dusk, waiting to pounce on you when you least expect it.  By the light of day, this same nasty little kid is just insecure and needs to take out his or her frustration on someone. And really, he’s not all that intimidating now, is he, once you see him for who he really is.  Have some compassion, but stand up for yourself.  Are you going to be the person who lets your dreams and desires fall victim to the bully that your ego has become?  Or are you going to stand strong in the face of adversity, and stake your claim to the unlimited success that is your birthright?

According to the Law of Attraction, what you focus on you will surely get, so does it make sense to focus on your fears?  Or would it make more sense to keep your eye on the proverbial prize - after all, according to a Maori proverb “Turn your face to the sun, and the shadows fall behind you“

Feel the fear, acknowledge it, forgive it, then forget it.  Begin to move relentlessly toward what your heart really desires, no matter how unreachable or impossible your dreams seem to be.

© SpiritBeautifulRevolution 2008