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Fear isn’t always a bad thing. Fear can keep you from going down a dark alley, or from getting on an elevator with someone who “just doesn’t feel right”.  Fear is a primal instinct that can save our lives, and for that reason, must be respected.

Fear doesn’t serve us, however, when it becomes irrational and keeps us from striving for a goal that we want to achieve, paralyzing us into inaction. The inner voice we hear that tells us “You’ll fail and look like a fool” is sometimes so overwhelming that we don’t even try to affect change in our lives, but keep going through the motions, leaving our dreams to collect dust in the recesses of our minds.

But is that really fear?  Or is it the insecure ego shouting for attention, willfully keeping your goals low so that you don’t risk embarrassment by not-quite-attaining a lofty dream?  And is this fear really about failure, or is it about success so incredible that your life would completely turn upside down if your dreams were realized?  “Fear” that keeps us from pursuing goals isn’t really fear at all, then. Instead, it is a ploy from weak ego that prefers the relative safety of the status quo instead of the possibility of real success.

So, what do you do?  There are tons of things, here are a few:

1)     realize that your fears are put in place by your insecure ego to “protect” you

2)     thank your ego for its good intention, but the cancel the negative thought, and imagine the best possible outcome. Then tell it “Thanks for your concern, but I have the audacity to dream big, so you can just sit there and keep quiet”

3)     keep canceling the negative thoughts, please. You know you have them. Every time you imagine the changes that will come into your life when you finally achieve your dream(s), panic and terror will raise their ugly heads to keep you in line.  Be a rebel, and do what is really in your heart, no matter how small your beginning steps are.

4)     practice techniques which help neutralize the conscious or subconscious fears you may have. 

5)     when you have neutralized your fears, practice affirmations, such as “Everything that happens is for my highest good, and I surrender completely and joyfully to the will of God (or in whomever you believe)

Fear is like that nasty little kid in your neighbourhood that lurks behind the tree at dusk, waiting to pounce on you when you least expect it.  By the light of day, this same nasty little kid is just insecure and needs to take out his or her frustration on someone. And really, he’s not all that intimidating now, is he, once you see him for who he really is.  Have some compassion, but stand up for yourself.  Are you going to be the person who lets your dreams and desires fall victim to the bully that your ego has become?  Or are you going to stand strong in the face of adversity, and stake your claim to the unlimited success that is your birthright?

According to the Law of Attraction, what you focus on you will surely get, so does it make sense to focus on your fears?  Or would it make more sense to keep your eye on the proverbial prize - after all, according to a Maori proverb “Turn your face to the sun, and the shadows fall behind you“

Feel the fear, acknowledge it, forgive it, then forget it.  Begin to move relentlessly toward what your heart really desires, no matter how unreachable or impossible your dreams seem to be.

© SpiritBeautifulRevolution 2008

I complained I had no shoes until I saw a man that had no feet.
                                                                                                                            Author Unknown

Do you ever remember doing something for someone, and hardly being acknowledged for it?  Going that extra mile, trying to do your best, and being totally disrespected and disregarded in spite of your best efforts?

I do, and it sucks. 

Nothing makes me feel more ornery than someone who is ungracious and ungrateful towards something they’ve received, especially if it’s me who’s done the giving.

I really think that the Universe is like that. If you can imagine the Universe someone who gives the best of him or herself, then would you not say that a little gratitude is in order even when the gift isn’t perfect?

As an employee, if you went the extra mile every day to do a fantastic job, then your boss called you into her office to say that she has too much to do, and is going to pass more your way, how would you feel?  My guess is that you’d tell her (or at least want to tell her) where she could stick her “extra work”. (and it wouldn’t be pretty)  How motivated would you be to take on more?  My guess is that your motivation would quickly diminish to “if it’s not in my contract, I’m not doing it” levels.  After all, if your best isn’t good enough, why would you give more?

When you do something for someone, even if it’s not exactly what they wanted, but you did your best with what you had, it feels really awful to have them display a lack of gratitude.

Now, look at the Universe and what it’s given you. Even if your life isn’t perfect, can you think of a time when you weren’t grateful for what you had?  The vibrational level of disdain or displeasure is very low.  If you’re vibrating at a low level, what type of things are you going to manifest?  You guessed it, Einstein, you are going to get more crap.

If you turn it around, even though the “gifts” weren’t perfect, can you think of something to be grateful for?  How much higher do you think your vibration has risen in response to gratitude?  Now that you are vibrating at a higher level, since like attracts like, what type of things are you going to manifest?  More things you can be grateful for.

Example:  I would love to own my own home.  I have yet to envision the perfect home, but I know the qualities of its essence and how it will make me feel.  This could go one of 2 ways:  I can be bitter for not owning my own home (yet), which lowers my vibration and attracts more things of an equally low vibration,

OR … I can be grateful for the cozy, quiet apartment, where the rent is cheap, my utilities are included, I have a fantastic harbour view and I am one block from one of the main shopping districts (and only a 10 minute walk from my favourite pub)

TRUST me!  I choose to be grateful, because I know that as long as I keep my eye on the prize, and love the essence of what I want, I will get it. 

By-the-way – I manifested this bachelorette-pad of mine.  Yes sirreee, I sure did.  I wrote down all of the qualities and details of my home, and let the Universe take care of the “How”. I didn’t beg, I didn’t obsess, I just believed that somewhere in this city I call home, I would find it. (In my heart I felt that what I was asking for was realistic, and that’s something else I did right for myself at that point in time.  Since then, my concept of what is possible for me has grown considerably, stay tuned for my next manifestation). 

This apartment was the only one I looked at, because while it wasn’t perfect, it was perfect for me. I didn’t get everything I wanted (no balcony, no washer/dryer), but I came pretty damn close.  And you know what?  It’s fine.  I’m happy, and I am truly grateful for my little oasis of peace when I get home at night.

So the next time you’re complaining that you don’t like your home, imagine how it would feel to live in a cardboard box. Having a hard time?  Go sit outside in a snowstorm on a park bench for a few hours.  Are you feeling any gratitude for the roof over your head now?

You don’t like what your partner cooked for dinner?  Suck-it-up, princess. At least you have food on your table, and trust me, there are probably millions of people who would trade places with you for even for one bowl of mac and cheese.

My point is this – a little bit of gratitude goes a long way.  Now, go make a list of things that you have to be grateful for, and if you’re having a hard time, start with breathing.   The Universe will “appreciate” your gratitude.

Now that you know what you don’t want in your life, it’s time to have a little fun and think about what you do want.  If you have a hard time narrowing things down, you are not alone.

It’s not as easy as you thought, now, is it?

Identifying what you want has to go beyond “a nice car, a nice home” or “to be happy”. Who doesn’t want all of that?  To really narrow things down, then, think about how you want to feel – because when you “feel” something, as we have already discussed, your vibration will change accordingly.  Have a look at what could already “be” in your life, or what you could get that would help you achieve that feeling. 

Let’s say, for example, that you want to own your own home.  How would owning your own home feel?  In your mind’s eye, how would you feel when driving up to your home?  Excited, happy?  Where is your home located?  At the end of a long, winding driveway, surrounded by fields and hills?  How about overlooking the ocean, and smelling the salt air, hearing the waves crash? 

How would you feel as you open the front door?  Ideally, a home should be your safe place, a place of love, comfort and peace.  Let yourself feel that, and anything else positive you can associate with your home. 

Take it a bit further. How is your home decorated?  There’s no point in envisioning modern elegance if you prefer rustic comfort, because you won’t get the same feeling from it – and it is your fantasy, after all.  Hey, as you’re imagining all of this, play some music that evokes the feelings you want to get from your home (everyone’s different, remember, so that’s completely up to you). Envision pets, a partner, art, furniture, the view from your rooftop deck…oops, that’s mine, my apologies. You create your fantasy as you wish. 

Think about the number of bedrooms, the layout, draw a floor plan, think about your garden. After all, as Gloria Steinem once stated “Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.”

The point is you need to feel passionate and excited, it will greatly enhance the process, and we know that passion will set things in motion, even if we can’t see it with our own eyes.  Our passion today can become our reality tomorrow, provided we don’t get in our own way.

I think that a vision board is a great tool, so go ahead and use one.  Don’t think about how you’re going to achieve, let a higher power figure that out. Don’t try to control how grandiose your dreams are – when you ask for your dream person, situation or object, ask “for all of this or something better”. Don’t limit yourself, because our universe is limitless, and you can be, too.  For some more pointers, you may want to check out  www.spiritbeautiful.com .  When negative thoughts creep into your dream-time, just say “stop” or “cancel” and immediately turn your attention to the good stuff.

Avoid desperation and doubt. Give yourself some time every day to imagine your desire with passion and joy, and then let it go. It’s out there, if you keep the faith, it will find its way to you eventually.

                                                                                                                               SBR

© SpiritBeautifulRevolution 2008

One of the first things that you should do in utilizing the Law of Attraction is to identify what you don’t want in your life (see http://www.spiritbeautiful.com/law-of-attraction.html  for more pointers).  Even more importantly, you need to identify why you don’t want it.  And sometimes, my friends, this is not as clear as you may think.

You may look at your job, for example, and know that you hate it.  First of all, to hate is an emotion which requires a lot of passion (fuel) to even exist, so you’re focusing on something using a lot of energy… but I digress…

Why do you hate your job?  Is it the type of work you do, your environment, your boss, your co-workers, your paycheck?  All of the above?  Great, now break it down into smaller chunks so you can more easily analyze it.  That’s right, get out your pen and paper and stick with this.

Let’s say you can’t stand your boss.  Now, why is that?  What do they say or do (or don’t say and do) and how does it make you feel?  For example, let’s say that there was an oversight on a client file of which you made your boss aware. He said he’d deal with it, but now let’s say that since you passed the responsibility to where it rightfully belongs,  somehow it slipped his mind. Six months later, the mistake has come to light, and your boss is trying to pin this on you. How do you feel?  My guess is that you’re angry about being a scapegoat (and yes, you have every right to be).  Let me ask you this – how is this anger going to serve you?  Oh wait, let me tell you – it’s not.  If you sit and fester about this,  it will become a carbuncle on the behind of your life.  Now, turn it around -  what can you learn from this?

(Ok, this is a whole other topic, but I have to say it – document everything! Trust me on this, I have had employers in the past who have tried to make me the scapegoat for their screw ups and it’s not fun, but documenting things will cover your behind in a pinch)

So, you don’t like your boss because he won’t accept responsibility for his mistakes, and tries to blame you. Bravo!  And you know that you get pissed off when stuff like this happens.  You have been disrespected and unappreciated for having lived up to the role you were given (in your job description, which just so happens to change whenever your boss doesn’t want to do something and tries to pass it on to you.)

Once you figure out how to deal with it, you can then look at the situation from another perspective – and trust me, most of life is all about perspective.  So, now you can say this about the type of boss you want to work for – you would like to be respected for the work that you do, and the contribution you make to your company. You would like to work with people who are mature and reliable, and accept responsibility for mistakes they make, but also give credit where credit is due. You want to be a member of a team that works well as a unit, and is supportive of all of its members.  When you work in this environment and for this type of boss, you will feel happy and peaceful, and that you are a contributing member of the staff. 

See, that wasn’t so hard, was it?

By identifying what you don’t want, and why you don’t want it, this will open the door to the possibility of realizing what you do want.                                                

                                                                                                                                   SBR

© SpiritBeautifulRevolution 2008