SpiritBeautifulRevolution

One of the first things that you should do in utilizing the Law of Attraction is to identify what you don’t want in your life (see http://www.spiritbeautiful.com/law-of-attraction.html  for more pointers).  Even more importantly, you need to identify why you don’t want it.  And sometimes, my friends, this is not as clear as you may think.

You may look at your job, for example, and know that you hate it.  First of all, to hate is an emotion which requires a lot of passion (fuel) to even exist, so you’re focusing on something using a lot of energy… but I digress…

Why do you hate your job?  Is it the type of work you do, your environment, your boss, your co-workers, your paycheck?  All of the above?  Great, now break it down into smaller chunks so you can more easily analyze it.  That’s right, get out your pen and paper and stick with this.

Let’s say you can’t stand your boss.  Now, why is that?  What do they say or do (or don’t say and do) and how does it make you feel?  For example, let’s say that there was an oversight on a client file of which you made your boss aware. He said he’d deal with it, but now let’s say that since you passed the responsibility to where it rightfully belongs,  somehow it slipped his mind. Six months later, the mistake has come to light, and your boss is trying to pin this on you. How do you feel?  My guess is that you’re angry about being a scapegoat (and yes, you have every right to be).  Let me ask you this – how is this anger going to serve you?  Oh wait, let me tell you – it’s not.  If you sit and fester about this,  it will become a carbuncle on the behind of your life.  Now, turn it around -  what can you learn from this?

(Ok, this is a whole other topic, but I have to say it – document everything! Trust me on this, I have had employers in the past who have tried to make me the scapegoat for their screw ups and it’s not fun, but documenting things will cover your behind in a pinch)

So, you don’t like your boss because he won’t accept responsibility for his mistakes, and tries to blame you. Bravo!  And you know that you get pissed off when stuff like this happens.  You have been disrespected and unappreciated for having lived up to the role you were given (in your job description, which just so happens to change whenever your boss doesn’t want to do something and tries to pass it on to you.)

Once you figure out how to deal with it, you can then look at the situation from another perspective – and trust me, most of life is all about perspective.  So, now you can say this about the type of boss you want to work for – you would like to be respected for the work that you do, and the contribution you make to your company. You would like to work with people who are mature and reliable, and accept responsibility for mistakes they make, but also give credit where credit is due. You want to be a member of a team that works well as a unit, and is supportive of all of its members.  When you work in this environment and for this type of boss, you will feel happy and peaceful, and that you are a contributing member of the staff. 

See, that wasn’t so hard, was it?

By identifying what you don’t want, and why you don’t want it, this will open the door to the possibility of realizing what you do want.                                                

                                                                                                                                   SBR

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